You can lift anyone's spirit with a single comment. Compliments are one of the most extraordinary components of social life. If given right, they create so much positive energy that they make things happen as if by magic.
They ease the atmosphere around two people and kindly introduce people to each other. Of course, there is a way to give compliments. And, just as important, there is a way to receive them. You need to know how to do both.
People benefit from being the objects of compliments, but you also benefit being givers of them. Recipients benefit from knowing that you notice and learn that you value them. So compliments are powerful in motivating continued efforts. People strive to do more of what brings praise from others.
So, here are 5 reasons why it’s a good choice to use more genuine compliments in your day to day life.
- You can make someone’s day. That’s a nice thing to do.
- Increased positivity. Keeping your focus on the positive parts in people expands your own positivity. You’ll notice more positive things about yourself, your own life and other things in your surroundings. What you focus on in your everyday life you’ll see everywhere, not just in other people.
- You get what you give. Don’t keep this in the forefront of your mind while giving a compliment. It may make the compliment seem insincere and like you are just out to get something from the other person. But still, people often have a strong feeling of wanting to give what they got. Perhaps not right away, but over time reciprocity and a positive relationship can build. And in general, what you give you tend to get back from the world around you.
- Attractiveness. Positivity, appreciation and being able to genuinely express yourself are three attractive traits both in personal and professional relationships. People tend to want to hang around and work with people that have such traits.
- It’s fun. When you give a genuine compliment you ignite a spark of happy feelings inside of yourself.
But sometimes we protest or object to the compliment, those answers instantly suck the positive energy out of the air and deflate the giver. They make the giver feel stupid for noticing and commenting on something so unworthy of praise. They totally invalidate the person's judgment.
So, the only one way to receive a compliment is graciously, with a smile.
The art of receiving a compliment teaches us an important lesson about life. It tells us that how we feel is highly subjective, known only to us. And it isn't necessarily observable to the world.
If we allow ourselves to inhale the positive atmosphere created by compliments, it can be powerful enough to transform our feelings. ^^